Interview with Hilary Roberts | Singing My Love Through Existence
Even when at times, we feel discouraged or down, we can find our inner strength to focus on something beautiful to appreciate. Love and appreciation are synonymous, and when we allow those emotions to speak, act and be us, we become in alignment to inspire anyone and to uplift those who need it most.
“When we come from a place of love, it being self-love and loving others, I have found it to be the place of the greatest fulfillment,” says singer Hilary Roberts aka “The Red Songbird,” whose beautiful lead single is called “There for You.” Aiming to bring people together, the song is a reminder that we are not alone, and Hilary does it the best way she knows, through her voice.
- Please introduce yourself briefly. Who, in your own words, is Hilary Roberts?
Hilary Roberts is a thriver and survivor. She experienced traumatic events at a very young age in her formative years and this trauma continued into her adulthood. She didn’t believe that she could ever get to the “yay”. As she began to accept help from others that were trying to be there for her, she was brought back to life by their love. Now her endeavor is to spread that love and compassion around the planet.
- How does your personal life journey influence your creative process as an artist?
Being that I went through a lot of different experiences and survived, I have been given the courage to walk out the pain of trauma and of heartbreak and losing someone … and have gotten to a place of contentment, peace and joy. I reach into those life experiences to tap into the creativity of expressing that experience. It is about hopefully creating some kind of relational aspect so that people feel less alone.
- We all listen and identify with music and words that deeply resonate with our own life experiences. In your opinion, how can artists contribute to positively impact society through music?
I think that, first of all, an artist needs to use their creativity to heal themselves. Walking those experiences out through their creativity opens the door to helping someone else with their gifts. That is how we reach people; when we think of their needs above our own. But at first … we get it all out as raw as it needs to be.
- There are many talented artists that want to succeed in the music industry. How does trust and believing in yourself affect the creation of songs and bringing success into being?
It is really important and this was a struggle for me earlier in life, but as my faith grew, faith in believing in a God that I knew gave me these gifts, that’s when I knew I wasn’t doing it just for me. It wasn’t about me anymore, it was about serving a higher purpose. If I believe that this is a gift that has been given to me and it’s my own special unique gift, and nobody else has it like I do, then I do the footwork and I leave the results to that power that is greater than me. That has created a lot of peace for me and so when I start getting in fear or thinking things need to happen a different way or a faster way or whatever it is, I have to remember what the purpose is and the purpose is that if I’m helping at least one person with my song, it’s going to go to the places it needs to go.”
- How would you describe the emotions that flow through you and to you when you sing?
Wow, it is the time when I feel closest to my Creator and to humanity. It is definitely the biggest spiritual experience that I get to have; very close second is being of service to others.
- Your beautiful lead single There for You aims to bring people together and to remind them they are not alone. How do you think what you feel and believe about yourself affects the way you give to others?
Well, I’ll tell you a little story, when I was first kind of coming out of the muck of alcoholism and drug addiction, I didn’t have a lot to give. I was barely a week sober and a group of people took me to go help someone else, and even though I was in so much pain and I was craving, helping that person brought me out of myself and my self-pity and all of the pain of regret that I had. So, I think if you take the action and you follow the winners and you do what they do, eventually it becomes second nature to you because you build a foundation. Again, with the word “we” not “me”.
- There for You is also a celebration of oneness. How do you connect with the authentic being of love within yourself and others?
The way I have found to learn how to love myself is to take actions that build self-esteem and to practice self-nurturing and self-love. Inevitably, when I love others it is also loving myself because we are all connected as one.
- It is probably inspiring to be part of a project with such an amazing message behind There for You. Could you share with us the most memorable moments of co-creation with your team?
Wow, this was the first song that I recorded with Damon Sharpe and Eric Sanicola. Damon brought the song foundation to me and then we worked on it to make it mine. I think it was so powerful for me, in so many ways, because it was my first time back in the studio in a long time. I was terrified and intimidated, because Damon was this amazing Grammy Award winner who had worked with the biggest of the big, and he made it so comfortable for me. It was life altering and was also the message of how I had been picked up and out of the muck. People had been there for me. The personal experience of going in the studio receiving the love and support of someone so successful … it was mind-blowing! I don’t have enough words to speak on it.
- For sure, you are already in the process of creating more uplifting stories through your music. So, what’s next on that front?
Well, funny you should ask because we are now releasing this song, the remake of Back to Life, that was made famous thirty years ago by Soul to Soul. We’ve put our own spin on it and really hope the fans enjoy it. I think they will (smiling).
- Imagine, you are out there on stage in front of a large audience, lights are on, musicians are ready, the crowd is going crazy…What is your state of being at that moment and the relationship between you and your audience?
I am so ready to lift them up! I want for them to have a fabulous time and be moved … and to experience a myriad of emotions … and feel the connection of the music.
- How has being an artist contributed to your personal growth and provided an opening for you to the best of life?
I have been a person that has been a ninja at self-flagellation throughout my life and learning to accept myself, my humanness, has been a difficult thing for me. Through this creativity and getting to know the fans and seeing how the music affects them, it makes me realize that we’re all just doing the best we can. I don’t have to be so hard on myself. It’s interesting because I’m so loving and forgiving to others, but to myself it’s been more of a challenge. I think that, in this last year especially, I have gained more of a freedom of forgiveness of self … of just letting Hilary be Hilary. Of course, I battle with it at times and I have to use my tools to get out of the negative mindset, but again it’s all about realizing we will never rise above being human.
- Do you have any practice or habit when you want to transition from fear to empowerment? If ever, so.
How funny that you ask “if ever, so” because for us humans, when don’t we have to practice going from fear to empowerment. As humans, we all have to deal with that every day. I use the serenity prayer a lot. I also do a lot of positive self-talk. You know, I had a lot of negative self-talk for a long time and now I do a lot of positive self-talk to just tell myself I did a good job on something, or this is really fun, or isn’t that pretty.
The big thing about the fear is about asking myself “do I know for sure this is the absolute truth” because fear is usually false evidence appearing real. So, I have to ask myself, “do I absolutely know this is the truth or am I just creating a scenario” and I would say most of the time, almost I would say 99.9% of the time, I’m creating a scenario. I have to come back to the facts. What are the facts of the situation? I just try to bring it back to where the moment is and how is everything in that moment … when I was super poor, how am I going to eat …. what are the things that are going to happen? And you know, somehow, I always got fed. Somehow, I was always protected … even in the midst of horrible things.
- Are you involved in any charity organization or humanitarian cause you would like to mention?
I am a huge fan of child advocacy centers because they go onto the firing line and help fight for the victims that cannot fight for themselves and they get the victims the help that they need.
I love places that are great to the elderly. I have a special love for the elderly because, I feel a lot of times, they’re the forgotten ones in our country and I don’t like that at all. I want us to reach out to our elders and look to them for wisdom, like they do in so many other countries.
I also love organizations that are about the humane treatment of animals.
- The spirit of The Hedonist Magazine is “The Essence of a Joyful Living.” How does Joy during the creative process affect your own experience and in consequence the final manifestation of your actions?
I feel that creating music and writing the lyrics is what I was meant to do. It just fills my heart with so much joy to do it. I am fulfilled as I am creating. I am fulfilled as I am singing. I am fulfilled as I am connecting with the audience.
Since I know that I am trying to be an example to other people, it makes me want to stand in esteemable things. Now I’m human, I fall short. When I used to feel so horrific about myself, like I just didn’t feel good about myself, that I learned to do esteemable things, and that created self-esteem.
Now when I know that I’m being looked up to by young girls and young ladies, I want to be that better example in my own walk and so that is what I try to do.
- When you hear: “You can be, do and have anything you want,” words by Abraham Hicks. What is your take on such a statement?
Since I’m a woman that comes from a place of faith, I can only speak for myself and what has happened in my life. In my lifetime, there were things that I wanted so desperately. Thank God I didn’t get them. And there were things that I went for …. they were the desires of my heart, and I didn’t get them. That was a very good thing.
For me, I believe that if it’s helpful to humanity and helpful to others, I believe that it is the right thing for my destiny. To go and just take and do whatever I want and forget all of what’s good for other people, I think is a very selfish place to be. When we come from a place of love, it being self-love and loving others, I have found it to be the place of the greatest fulfillment.